Letting go of the unnecessary

So I started a running class in October last year. I went in with no expectations, I just wanted to get back in shape because I found myself at the heaviest weight I’ve ever been in my life, 240 Lbs. I had trouble climbing stairs and playing the game that I love the most, Basketball. I couldn’t run more than twice up and down the court without collapsing in a heap of lost breaths and exhaustion. So I decided to enroll in a running and conditioning class at the local community college. The first day we ran a mile to see our time, mine was a pathetic 11:45. Furthermore, I hadn’t run a mile since high school and long story short, I almost died. I actually injured my foot and had to miss the next class. It was not a good situation. I came back to class after my foot felt better determined, and continued to run. Slowly but surely I was starting to be able to go longer distances until eventually, I was running a 5k twice a week. Something else happened though. I would regularly step on the scale and started to notice my weight was gradually dropping. 240 lbs became 230, 220, 210 I couldn’t believe what I was seeing, I was thrilled! I began to watch my diet a little better and was beginning to feel more and more confident about both running, and losing weight. Fast forward and I am now at 190 pounds and feeling happy about the progress I’ve made. I have to admit, my favorite part about this is that I am now able to fit in to clothes I would have never been able to fit in to when I was at my heaviest weight. The weight continued to drop but I was faced with a new dilemma. Letting go of the unnecessary. You see I was a junk food addict. At my desk at work I always had to have my Red bull, chips, candies you name it I had it. Lunchtime involved going to the nearest fast food joint I could find (which coincidentally are plentiful in my area) and indulging in as many calories as I could. Chik-fil-a, Wendy’s, Burger king, McDonald’s I was making them rich, and making myself fatter and fatter.

I was running 3 to 5 miles per class and was finding it more and more difficult to continue with the poor eating habits, so I changed them. I started to trade the Red bulls for natural fruit smoothies, and the chips and dip with apples, oranges and bananas. Lunchtime calorie fests were exchanged for a small salad (with no dressing). In order for me to continue to have success I needed to let go of the unnecessary. The unnecessary calories and junk food needed to go. I won’t say I don’t struggle, because that’s what this post is all about. The struggle to let go of the things we don’t need. You see, my body and mind thought that if I didn’t have a huge meal for lunch I wasn’t going to be able to make it through the day, when in reality, all those calories and junk were making me MORE tired and groggy. I needed to get rid of the unnecessary.

Another example of me getting rid of the unnecessary: I began to have issues at home. These issues were, believe it or not spilling over in to my social media posts and feeds. Without going in to too much detail, I began to obsess over a certain someone’s Facebook, snap chat and Instagram feeds. I would check that person’s posts before even checking my own notifications, checking to see if I could find out something new or figure out what was happening (I know pathetic right?). Needless to say it was becoming a toxic situation and even more upsetting was that I couldn’t or better said, didn’t want to stop my behavior until one day I had enough. I had enough of the obsessing, stalking and bad vibes so I committed social media suicide. Deleting all forms of social media was tough at first but I must say, it’s been somewhat liberating for me. I no longer obsess over things I can’t control and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I needed to get rid of the unnecessary.

The point of these long and perhaps a bit drawn out stories is this: Sometimes in order for us to have success in things we want, we have to get rid of the unnecessary. Anything positive that you want to accomplish in life will also come with obstacles specifically designed to block you from doing so. For me the challenges of losing weight and maintaining it, and the challenges of being able to stop obsessing and move on were plagued with obstacles of unnecessary things. Unnecessary things that I didn’t want to let go of. Had I not changed my eating habits, I could have never continued to lose weight and be healthy. Likewise, had I not made the decision to delete my social media, perhaps I would not have been able to heal and begin the process of moving on. Junk food, bad eating habits and obsessing over social media were unnecessary things for me. I googled the definition of the word and it basically means, “not needed”. They were things that I thought I couldn’t live without at some point, but in reality, they were not needed. My body was fine without the junk food, better if you ask me. And the peace and tranquility I achieved by no longer obsessing over social media was absolutely a positive for me. What are the unnecessary things that you have to get rid of? What’s blocking you from achieving your goals, hopes and dreams? It won’t be easy to get rid of things you enjoy or think you can’t live without, but at the end of the day, you can and you will. If I did it, you can do it! Get rid of the unnecessary things in your life, and focus on the necessary. Only you will be able to love yourself enough to do that. Whatever it is in your life you are trying to achieve, block out the bad and stick with the good and you’ll see what a huge difference it will make in the process.







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